Appalling is an understatement regarding how I and those that look like me feel about this post (it’s below). Quite often I speak up about many things regarding racism and when it’s done in front of White people, very often I’m bashed. One comment that I read was “…she is a bigot and a racist” and this was after I addressed the institutional racism that was viewed by not just Black people, but all people. It becomes a lesson that you hold on to….to help you prosper. But to ensure you are able to process it, dialogues in a safe haven must be done.
It’s hateful, it’s hurtful, and one of the many reasons why I have been in therapy with many that are in my circle. We are tired as hell… (I think I can say fuck here) of dealing with people who are oblivious to the path that we walk daily. Even now with zoom sessions being compromised and leaving yet another example of what we as Black people face so often.
Often I have to remind my Black teenage son about the white girls that he interacts with on his social media. His dad and I are always finding resources to show him the importance of being mindful because racism stems from your environment. Our teens are taught this by their environment; more than likely their families. Teens from such backgrounds tend to shed tears after they have been caught …. what happens when our Black males or females just walk anywhere and are instantly charged with something they could have never done? Do we offer them an apology or do we even allow them tissue to wipe their tears?
I recall so often my mom reminding me of this and the one time I let my guard down… I was stabbed in the back by a few whites who never even got a chance to know me (and even with me trying to help them see me… never did. I even purchased them gifts, but all they could see is a passionate Black woman who introduced her White students to Black history during the month of February) but what was most hurtful was I was also pushed down into the ground by someone that looked like me. Actually a few…. They were afraid to stand up for what was right. They whispered words and even asked many questions on the side, but when they were exposed…. they lied. I can’t blame them though…. they can’t risk their livelihood on every racial issue we go through, right?
And what was fortunate about the situation for me is… paper trails do not lie.
As we are being quarantined and as we are supposedly “teaching” educators, teach your students beyond their environment because I don’t know what your experience is with Blackness, but some of the most influential people that I have become acquainted with are Black and we do not live up to the falsified previews of the media regarding “blackness.” As a matter of fact what really does it mean to be black? Hmmmmmmmmm
We are #BlackGreatness #ThisThingCalledLifeEmbraceMYBlackness
Maybe there will be teachers who will be fired soon too… #SpeakUp and administrators too…