A joy in my life is having friends who hear me out when I need an ear, text me and call when I really don’t even realize I need a friend, believe in me most times more than I believe in me, and are consistent with me.
I have never been that friend to call. I am pretty bad with this, but I will text, send a card, or even a letter. I am the friend that is more of a nurturer minus the phone calls….I am the friend that will send you positive affirmations and truly praise the goodness that I see in you, but I rarely pick up the phone to just call…
One of my closest friends balances me out. He pulls out the fun in me. He makes me laugh so hard. He holds me tight when he hugs me and typically whispers something in my ear, and even when he is not always in a great mood, he tends to care about what I have going on ALL of the time.
He knows my background and has been one of the people who has pushed me to see my light. His brilliance and integrity is something that has always impressed me. He is versatile and humble. He is extremely observant, and I cannot express how lucky I am to have him in my life❤️
A landmark (yes I did say landmark) memory was his birthday in 2017. He always wanted to go to Magic City Classic, so we met each other there. As a matter of fact, this was a trying time for me and I honestly almost forgot to purchase the tickets. The tickets were purchased, we met each other there, and just his genuine spirit and love for me showed me what friendship needs to always be… He knows I’m spoiled. He actually spoils me. He lets me take on conversations some time. He tells me how beautiful I am even when I look a hot mess! Hahahahaha …And I remember when “This is Us” aired and we watched one of the first episodes together Thanksgiving of 2017 together when he selflessly drove to make me seafood for Thanksgiving, while in his first year of his doctoral program. He cooked…
I slept… I woke up to eat… I don’t even remember who washed the dishes, but I’m almost sure it was not me.
And as we watched that episode he allowed me to exhale and he was not even truly aware of all that I was going through!
This same friend has made it to my graduations, has been involved in so many of my sons events, and he is truly the epitome of friendship, of love, and of selflessness. And on his his birthday day; 37 I wish him the love and the joy and the peace that he gives to everyone. We have celebrated and spent so much time together over the years, and I chuckle thinking about our fun, our emotional roller coasters, but just knowing that he will have me laughing during a tear….🤦🏾♀️… heck we even took a sewing class together…. see my wallet??🤦🏾♀️😂
Today I took a day to read the book Ugly by Robert Hoge and he starts out with sharing his solution to life “The solution is simple: Be unafraid of living.” This is what my Des has taught me! He reminds me that those pieces of my puzzle that are stuck will never go away and in all of these many years that I have known him he has been consistent. He texts and/or call/FaceTime me and he sticks to his words. He is that one that will call me until I answer 😂🙄😂❤️ As my friend he knows my love language and as Robert Hoge says, “what words meant and said were more important” than anything.
As I close…and I’m actually tearing up, I believe what he told me will happen at 50…thanks for being a genuine friend and always holding true to your words… and for always calling ❤️