I always get the best calls when needed. Sometimes I don’t even think I need them, but once the conversation is over and I’m left feeling refreshed… whoa… that is when you know you needed to hear or feel that energy.
For years now, I have written an old classmate. He is in prison and for awhile he was in solitary confinement. I recently watched a documentary discussing an inmate who spent YEARS in solitary confinement. The only way he was able to survive is by changing his mind. He had to visualize himself out of the prison walls. He had to think positive and stay focused on the future. I can’t imagine spending 22 years in solitary confinement for a crime I did not commit. (https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.wbur.org/hereandnow/2019/01/11/anthony-gay-solitary-confinement). But this story is like so many other stories that places people in harsh situations just because…. the system is flawed.
It takes me back to even Invisible Man by Ralph Ellison. Oh it reminds me so much of that first chapter… deceit, envy, hurt, and every attempt to humiliate someone for being something that others can’t be. .. you should check it out… great read! The first chapter might…. help one to understand a little more history… but…(there I go with those darn ellipsis again..)
I use to always have conversations with my dad (you see he was a teacher also) and he reminded me of the unfairness of life. Just like the narrator, I didn’t understand… and this is why I am constantly sharing this lesson with my son. You see, he is far from perfect. Right now he was just reprimanded about something, but he will understand later. But I am extremely proud of him for standing up for something that bothered him (#KIDSAREMEAN) and with tact….You know He cannot act out like some kids can…that would definitely cause someone to label…..OK let me stop and just say that It’s unfortunate that I have to remind my Black son to behave so he will not be that prisoner that I write. It’s unfortunate that I have to remind him that what those that don’t look like him will never be able to understand when he has to pull away from them…he cannot be that person to harass a teacher or even stay out to late or drive his car with loud music for fear of being another Jordan Davis…T. Martin… (🙏🏾❤️) And He is an amazing young man with flaws just like me…but….
So as I think about the power of the mind, the power of so many great AA men, I will continue to bring more positivity and encouragement as we learn of Black men who have indeed faced struggles even now in 2019. These great men and even women who learned to use their minds as a weapon and who are so darn strong that nothing can get to them because…. #FocusisKEY
And when a person tells me that #BlackLives don’t matter and #ThereIsEquality everywhere I will remind them of the items found in school by children who learn to group those shapes and people by those that raise them or the circle they keep…(that noose … or those disrespectful words … )
So as you prepare to read these upcoming blogs that center more on our minority men….open your mind and leave with a positive message versus reading key words and lacking the true essence of my writing….