The Gemini’s mind… my thoughts
I woke up this morning thankful for so much. After talking to an old colleague who engaged in a conversation with me about #ThisThingCalledLife #BeingSurfaceLevelOrNot I realized how thankful I am. I’m truly thankful for so much.
I am thankful for the strength that I have. I’m thankful for my resilient spirit. I’m thankful for those that never allow me to fall. I’m thankful for those that allow me in their space. I’m thankful for those that trust me to be their cheerleaders and even share personal stories with me.
Each story that I’ve listened to made me realize that we are all the same. We are people…. we are humans….we are….avid roller coaster …riders…
There is a secret to riding a roller coaster. When it gets scary, do you know what you can do? Well, obviously they will not stop the ride. If you have to vomit….if you need to cry….if you start to feel overwhelmed….the ride will just not stop for you….You are stuck….BUT there is a secret to “dealing” with it…. that secret is… Hold on…
So….I (remember I just love ellipses they make my blogs look cool…. i misuse them….but ..) remember talking with someone or maybe reading something and they / it shared that the beginning of the typical roller coaster is exhilarating because you are going up. You are excited and everyone has their hands up. Everyone is screaming! Everyone is talking and smiling and super happy to have finally made it on the ride. You even have those people with selfie sticks recording themselves. You know that it sometimes takes HOURS to get to that ride that lasts for two point five seconds….hmmmmm BUT everyone is anticipating the ride….the screams that will happen, the fear that you will have when it drops, the blood rushing to all sorts of your body… you know THAT feeling. The feeling of riding a roller coaster is…exhilarating and scary and addictive to many….
But there is a secret to dealing with those moments when you just want to get off because it’s too much…. it’s simply holding your stomach in… and I’ve done it on more than one occasion.
Our lives are roller coasters. Our lives are those inclines of so much excitement. Those inclines of sunshine. Those inclines of being madly in love. Those inclines of giving birth to the perfect child. Those inclines of going on perfect vacations. But then when that roller coaster drops….. We encounter so many hard… devastating… overwhelming moments……Those divorces. Those moments of abuse…Those financial burden moments. Those moments of catching your spouse cheating. Those depressing days. Those depressing nights. Those lost friendships. Those deaths. Those days in the hospitals with a loved one. Those days sitting and waiting for your loved one to get out of a coma. Those days at work dealing with racist colleagues. Those days when you feel like a failure….Those moments when you want to hold and hug a friend because they are feeling lost and hopeless.
And just like a roller coaster….. (MY misuse of ellipses again….🤷🏽♀️) you can’t stop it. You can’t slow it down. You can’t call the roller coaster operator and tell them to cut it off because… well you just cannot. 🤦🏾♀️You have to wait for it to stop. You have to suck it up and just hold your stomach in, strap on that resiliency bag, and hold your head up high and wait until the rollercoaster ride is over…. that two point five seconds that’s seems like a lifetime.
And when it’s done you have a choice… will you get back on the same ride or will you try a new ride?
Will you keep going back to the same thing and keep holding your stomach in or will you move on to something new?
In life, we have choices…. in life we can grow and become better if we stop holding our stomachs in and make sound decisions after that roller coaster ride….